I’m in a Codependent Relationship With Gossip Girl 

I do not have a functional, healthy relationship with Gossip Girl. At first we were hot and heavy and deeply in lust. I looked forward to seeing it every week. Was I wearing the right thing? I mean, I had to be fashionable. We’re talking about a show that knows it’s Louboutins from it’s Jimmy Choos. After an intense period, there was a cooling off. I wasn’t interested in rushing home and seeing a new episode on the appointed night. I wasn’t interested in talking about it to all my friends. Then came the inevitable break up. It had become too taxing and too predictable and I just didn’t have time for it. I thought I’d moved on until I heard other people becoming excited about it again. Was I missing out? What had happened to make it good again? Eventually I thought I’d give it another chance only to be disappointed again. But my problem is I keep going back. And I keep getting frustrated enough to stay away. Until I can’t anymore. What is it that makes me keep coming back? Currently the Blair/Dan storyline has me in thrall. I know it’s only a matter of time before I dump it again, but until then I’m practically helpless. I’m in a co-dependent relationship with this show. It’s not healthy and I want to stop but I can’t.

Reasons why I love it:

Chuck and Blair Forever. I love them with a passion and intensity that is frightening. I know their momentary breakups are just that. These two crazy kids were meant for each other. I do like seeing them with others every once in a while but I am confident they’ll always come back together.

Dan and Blair, Right Now. I loved the build up and even the cliffhanger kiss. I am so ready for them to be together and see how it goes. It’s amusing that they’re ashamed of liking each other and trying to hide it from everyone. We’ll see how long that lasts.

The Fashion. Eric Daman is a genius and I think that even when I don’t love what someone is wearing. He’s made fashion fun for me and made me think about becoming more adventurous with my own clothes. Kudos.

The Locations. I am now and will always be a fan of New York. I lived there for quite some time and I constantly miss it. Watching this show reminds me of the good (and bad) times I had there.

Reasons why I leave it:

Backstabbing.Enough already. Everyone eventually ends up turning on everyone else. Family loyalty? Non-existent. Friendship? Thrown under the bus if either one sees the advantage of doing it. I wouldn’t be friends with any of these people, no matter how much you paid me.

Family Turning On Each Other. See above. OVER IT.

What They’ve Done to Vanessa. I loved her when she first appeared on this how. Here was a girl with integrity, who was grounded, who had a stable family. Oh, just kidding. She’s just as bad as the rest of them now. What happened to you Vanessa?

Serena and Her Boy-Crazy Ways. I keep making the mistake of thinking this is an ensemble show. It should be but we spend a lot of time on Serena and her ever-increasing list of exes. I don’t necessarily need to see her settle down – she’s too young. But I would love to see her spend some time figuring out what she wants instead of constantly falling into bed with someone new.

The Constant Manipulation. I don’t understand why friends and family see a need to manipulate anyone for any reason. I think they’re all so used to getting their own way they’ll do anything to make sure that happens.

Making Lily a Villain, One Too Many Times. I don’t understand why Lily is constantly the villain. And she’s done a lot of bad things, things she shouldn’t be forgiven for. Kelly Rutherford is better than that but I have to give her credit for working with what she’s given.

Ok, I’m glad I got that out of my system. I will be watching Gossip Girl tonight and I’m determined to do it with an open mind. I’ll let you know when and if I break up with it permanently. Part of me wants to but part of me doesn’t see that ever happening. I did mention we’re in a co-dependent relationship, right?